Abu Dharr narrated that the Messenger of Allah pbuh said :
“Your smiling in the face of your brother is charity, commanding good and forbidding evil is charity, your giving directions to a man lost in the land is charity for you. Your seeing for a man with bad sight is a charity for you, your removal of a rock, a thorn or a bone from the road is charity for you. Your pouring what remains from your bucket into the bucket of your brother is charity for you.”
Grade: Hasan (Darussalam)
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1956In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 62English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1956
Chapter: What Has Been Related About Various Kinds Of Ma’ruf (Good Deeds).
Chapters on Righteousness And Maintaining Good Relations With Relatives.
Explanation: Charity in its tangible, narrow sense divides people into the receivers on the one hand and the givers on the other. This division inspires among the receivers feelings of weakness and even of error, and among those who give feelings of pride and conceit. Such a division, for society, is extremely evil.
But the comprehensive Islamic concept of charity, which includes all good actions however small they may be, allows all people, whether rich or poor, to become givers and receivers on an equal basis. This points to another basic principle of Islamic thought and behavior—that the standard on which life is judged is not the materialistic or the economic standard alone but one based on faith, feeling, and sensitivity, which form the core of human relations.
Mankind has always been absorbed with and infatuated by amassing wealth and possessions, and often considers such materialism to be the very mainstay of life. But a society based on economic and materialistic considerations alone is often dry and hard and callous and is eaten up by hatred and envy.
Of course, Islam does not neglect the material world and the needs of life. Indeed it gives it due attention. But it does not merely stop there, because life in actuality does not stop there. Instead it carries it on to wider and varied horizons, to greater and higher levels. For Islam is the religion of life complete. And from it comes the ties of faith, affection, and love to bind hearts and the society together. Allah says in the Qur’an.
من كتاب البر والصلة عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم
باب مَا جَاءَ فِي صَنَائِعِ الْمَعْرُوفِ
حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّاسُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْعَظِيمِ الْعَنْبَرِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا النَّضْرُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الْجُرَشِيُّ الْيَمَامِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا عِكْرِمَةُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو زُمَيْلٍ، عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ مَرْثَدٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم “ تَبَسُّمُكَ فِي وَجْهِ أَخِيكَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَأَمْرُكَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَنَهْيُكَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ صَدَقَةٌ وَإِرْشَادُكَ الرَّجُلَ فِي أَرْضِ الضَّلاَلِ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَبَصَرُكَ لِلرَّجُلِ الرَّدِيءِ الْبَصَرِ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَإِمَاطَتُكَ الْحَجَرَ وَالشَّوْكَةَ وَالْعَظْمَ عَنِ الطَّرِيقِ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ وَإِفْرَاغُكَ مِنْ دَلْوِكَ فِي دَلْوِ أَخِيكَ لَكَ صَدَقَةٌ ” . قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنِ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ وَجَابِرٍ وَحُذَيْفَةَ وَعَائِشَةَ وَأَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ . وَأَبُو زُمَيْلٍ اسْمُهُ سِمَاكُ بْنُ الْوَلِيدِ الْحَنَفِيُّ.
قوله: (تبسمك في وجه أخيك) في الدين (لك صدقة)، يعني إظهارك البشاشة والبشر إذا لقيته تؤجر عليه كما تؤجر على الصدقة. ص 76.
حديث حسن غريب؛ وأخرجه البخاري في الأدب المفرد وابن حبان في صحيحه.
Decades of research bear out the basic truth: your mood is elevated and your stress is reduced if you plaster a big smile on your face, even for a short period of time. (Frowns have been shown to have the opposite effect.) The smile doesn’t have to be based on real emotion – faking it works. And while the research details vary, I’d recommend going with a full, true smile that involves your eyes as well as your mouth. That’s almost certainly a more potent mood changer.
And, there’s another benefit to that Duchenne smile: if you do it in public, those around you will be lifted as well. UCLA scientist Marco Iacoboni notes that our brains are wired for sociability. In particular, if one person observes another person smile, mirror neurons in that person’s brain will light up as if he were smiling himself. So, smile in private if you must, it will still boost YOUR mood… but why not extend that benefit to those around you by smiling in public?
In an experiment, researchers used chopsticks to manipulate the facial muscles of their 169 participants into a neutral expression, a standard smile, or a Duchenne smile. In addition to the chopstick placement, some were explicitly instructed to smile. Then, they were subjected to a series of stress-inducing, multitasking activities, which they struggled to perform while continuing to hold the chopsticks in their mouths. The subjects’ heart rates and self-reported stress levels were monitored throughout.
Results: The participants who were instructed to smile recovered from the stressful activities with lower hear rates than participants who held neutral expressions, and those with Duchenne smiles were the most relaxed of all, with the most positive affect. Those with forced smiles held only by the chopsticks also reported more positive feelings than those who didn’t smile at all.
Conclusion: When a situation has you feeling stressed or flustered, even the most forced of smiles can genuinely decrease your stress and make you happier.
“Grin and Bear It: The Influence of Manipulated Facial Expression on the Stress Response.”
by: Tara L. Kraft, Sarah D. Pressman.
First Published September 24, 2012.